My Big Chop at 19 months post relaxer

04:29 Naija girl next door 35 Comments

It was a bright, clear morning. The crisp air held the promise of new beginnings and even as she lazily uncoiled underneath the covers, she knew she was going to do something great that day.

     Ok I'm being uber dramatic. But I big chopped! That was three weeks ago after 19 months of transitioning. Don't mind my silly intro, I didn't wake up knowing I was going to. I woke up with kitchenlust (you know how some people have wanderlust?) and cooked+baked up a storm that day.
    I finally finished and got bored. My hair was in 5-day old two-strand twists, I twirled my hair for a minute and decided it was as good a day as any to cut off the relaxed hair.
 My hair wasn't dirty so I went ahead and did something I've been wanting to try.

Honey wash
  You know I use honey to wash my face yeah? It won't remove gunk like makeup but it's an amazingly mild cleanser for my sensitive skin. I figured why not for scalp that's not coated with buildup but needs freshening?
It worked. *wiggles* It's like a natural cowash, not much slip though. I left the twists in so I didn't need slip, but I'm not making the honey wash a regular because I loosen my twists while washing.
Afterwards I let it dry in twists to stretch.

Big chop
I always pictured my big chop would be in the daytime, with someone filming and cheering me on. I would have liked to  have a video to reminisce. But nah, spontaneity hit me at night, alone with my phone cam.
    Part into sections, saturate with water then flax seed gel to delineate relaxed from natural, cut at the point of demarcation, twist up section. That's what I did.
Just before cutting that section

Clearly demarcated textures

Relaxed, texlaxed and any tangled natural hair

    I had to go over again and dust off any remnants of texlaxed hair.
I had somewhere to be right after this so I did my usual faux-hawk by pinning up the sides. Some things never change.

The next day I did a clay masque (milk instead of egg this time) to deep clean and condition and as a proper induction to all-natural hair.
My hair didn't dry properly in the cornrows I did before I had to take them down and go out, so I pinned up the back and plopped on a hat, leaving the front out.

Honestly it was surreal. I couldn't stop touching my hair like "I actually did this!" I know I said I would battle shrinkage till I die but erm, I found myself spritzing water and patting down my fro for these styles. Hmmm.
    It's been three weeks but I really have only two days' worth of natural hair experience in my adult life as I've been in kinky twists since then.
     Now that I'm fully natural, I'm finally back to having length as a goal in my hair journey. Let's do this!
Any thoughts? Bits of natural hair wisdom for me? Please drop a comment below, I love those.

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  1. I wish I had bits of wisdom for you, but I don't coz I'm relaxed! but all the best! The nice thing about natural hair is that it is stronger because the protein bonds are not broken, so I'm sure you'll achieve your length goals in no time!

  2. I have no wisdom for you but congratulations on your big chop. 19 months is not easy. Your hair looks cute and I'm looking forward to seeing the styles you do.

  3. Congrats on your big chop!
    I look forward to seeing your journey.
    My bit of natural hair wisdom is "don't fight the shrinkage". It will almost always win.
    Nigerian and Natural

  4. Congrats dear...your hair looks great! Now a fro lives here :-)

  5. Yayy!
    Welcome to the flip life....being able to flip from kinky to straight and back again......point?
    Have fun with your hair.
    Don't let all the rules and regulations of natural hair (seriously, they are just guides...) hold you back.
    Can't wait to read about your next chapter in haircare.

    1. Wisdom from a veteran *salutes* thank you Hadassah. Can't wait to share it

  6. Congrats, the hat style looks fabulous too.

  7. awwww love it!! congrats!!

  8. Congrats on your chop. Your faux-hawk is cute.

  9. Congrats on the chop. I did mine about 3 weeks ago after 11.5months or so.

    1. I read your post on it, lovely hair you have. Let's see where this new journey takes us

  10. Eventually, she did it. Such a brave heart... happy for you.

  11. Snaps, Snaps!!
    You did it girl. I love it!

  12. Hmmmm, looking at the pix gave me mix feeling. But all the same, i believe that the natural will provide avenue for more interesting styles. I'm looking forward to the styles you will be pulling off. Congrats and all the best in this next phase. I dey come for back...............

  13. Omg, I can't believe I missed your BC. Congrats on a successful transition Sandra

  14. Happy chop day! Can't believe it's been over 19 months!
    Loving your Mohawk!

  15. I absolutely love it!

  16. Yay!! You finally let it go. Congratz on your big chop and happy hair growing.

  17. Hi NGND, I'm also transitioning and I think I've reached a good length with my natural hair so I've decided to finally cut off my relaxed hair. Please do you have any personal advice to give me as I'm just a 15 year old teenager starting this journey:)